In my life, i have encountered and surpassed a lot of trials.. relationship trials specifically... with family, friends and even in love... i mean.. who doesn't diba? and i know that meron pading mga dadating na new trials sa llife relationships ko... so maybe your thinking, what the hell did i do.. haha! am i a relationship expert now? nah... uhmm.. just want to share some insights regarding enhancing relationships... okay? :D more on LOVE haha... bakit ba! hehe...
So the first thing that a person should establish in a relationship is TRUST...it is a very important factor in a relationship. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation. (Kaya to those people who keeps on questioning their partners on alot of things... pwede ba magtiwala naman kayo!)
Another thing, in a relationship make sure na there is no pointing fingers... (oops, iba nanaman iniisip niyo! kayo talaga! haha) You should never criticize your partner for their shortcomings or when they do something wrong, always bear in mind that because of their shortcomings and weaknesses, they could not find a better partner than you. We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive others, others will ignore our mistakes too. (makes sense? oo naman noh!)
Also, the existence of overpowering is a NO NO! haha... coz many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all (yah right!) and their partners will change the bad habits. Actually, this is not the case... how do i know? ask yourselves! It is not easy to change, having high expectation on changing a partners character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. (ahuh, you got that right...) the best thing to do is change ourselves and lower our expectations... its a less painful! diba? what do you think?
Then, we should also consider choosing the right words to say at the right time and place... many relationships break off because of wrong speech... (i know i did before... haha) When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party...
Most importantly, we should also be very patient. Think first before you lose your patience with someone you love. Material things can be repaired but a hurting feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
There you go... enhancing relationships is really important... i know a lot of people who parted ways with their partner just because of simple things that they disregarded in their relationships. (specifically those that i elaborated)..